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If you would rather talk to a person than read a website, these are free and independent. None of them are commercial partners of ours.

  • If you are frightened for your physical safety, that comes before anything else on this page — a domestic violence hotline can help regardless of whether you plan to leave.
  • A GP or primary-care doctor can refer you for talking support without any of it going on a public record.
  • National mental-health helplines take calls about relationship crisis, not only about emergencies.
  • Registered couples and individual therapist directories let you filter for people who specifically work with infidelity.

See the full list of independent resources →

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Step three

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We do not publish an email address, so this form is the fastest route to a person. We cannot assess you, diagnose anything, or tell you what to do about your own situation — for that, the resources page lists people who can.

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